Pleasure is overestimate
There are two stories we hear when it comes to chasing a dream. First, it is the story of a self-made man or woman. This story shows a man who overcomes adversity and defies opportunities to achieve success. Most of us believed this was the only way to achieve anything through sheer tenacity. The process is simple: set a goal, work hard and achieve your goals. You can be what you want and do what you want; all you have to do is work hard. You are in complete control of your destiny. But things are not always that simple.
In The Secret of My Success, Michael J. Fox plays Brantley, a young man trying to make his way in the business world. After repeated rejections, he finally exploded in another unsuccessful job interview: “Where I am today, something is always wrong: too small, too old, too short, too long. Whatever the exception, I can fix it. I’m old. I want to get higher, I can be anything.”
Like many people, Brantley believes he can do anything if he puts his mind to it. But in the end, he realized that sometimes the secret to success is that you don’t like getting everything you want. The second story is different from the first story. Instead of closing, you have a way. What to do? Life is what you want it to be. You can’t control anything, and eventually, you will look at your life and realize there is no other way.
But where is this journey – is it all written? But what about the countless stories of people expressing pain in their sleep in death? Even when we talk about “sacrifice” and “sacrifice,” we want to believe that we have the power to control our lives. It must be another way. The first way is to say that you can be what you want; like him, you have no choice. But there can be a third way. But what if the goal is more than just getting what you want? What if they were your things, but how did you respond to those things?
Does your life have a purpose, or does a universe of darkness surround us? Everyone from theologians to scientists and career counsellors has weighed in on these questions. So look at them. We know that. Many people are unsatisfied with their jobs because they spend a lot of time on them. According to a recent study, only 13 % of workers worldwide do their work “continuously.” Another 87 % are isolated and sadder than happy.
These figures should come as no surprise. We are not surprised when a friend tells us they hate their job or when a family member talks badly about their boss. It is acceptable behaviour. We are conditioned to think that work is hard work and a high salary tolerance. And that’s the problem. You’re not your best self when you’re clinging to a commitment instead of a dream. We all know that. This is why more and more people are switching from one profession to another.
They try to be happy, but they fail. Most of us have done it at one time or another, to give up something, to do something better. It frustrates us when we encounter the same problems we avoid in the next job or relationship. But maybe we’re doing it wrong. Perhaps the worst way to be happy is to try to be satisfied. The work of the famous Austrian psychiatrist Viktor Frankl supports this idea. As a Holocaust survivor, Frankl had a personal experience of suffering that taught him an important lesson. He argued that humans do not incline to seek pleasure or avoid pain. They want to mean. We are not happy. It is not enough to satisfy our most profound concerns. We are looking for something more, something transcendent – a reason to be satisfied.
Through life-saving therapy with suicidal patients and his experience in a Nazi concentration camp, Frankl learned that three things give life meaning: first, a project; second, a meaningful relationship; third, a redemptive perspective on suffering. He realized that if people have something to do, something to give back, even in the most miserable of circumstances, then they have a reason to live another day. For Franklin, what kept him alive was the book manuscript he was working on before entering the camp and the hope of seeing his wife.
And over time, he saw his painful purpose. He survived because he had a job, someone he thought was waiting for him, and a confident attitude toward suffering that others don’t have. And his memoir “Man’s Search for Meaning” influenced the lives of millions of people, and this is the 20th century.
We often don’t realize that making a story about us, or because of our pain, is the wrong way to go. Focusing on the past or looking to the future will not help you find contentment. According to Frankl, the way to overcome the feeling of helplessness is not to face the problem. This is for better interference.
What is a reverse way of saying you should stop being happy? But does everyone want to be satisfied? Probably not. Life is too short to waste your time on useless things. We all want to know that our time on earth means something. We can only be happy for so long before we start to wonder what the point is. To be truly satisfied, we must overcome our desires and do what we want.
The call comes when we accept pain, not avoid it. Unfortunately, tragedies are inevitable. Bad things happen to good people, whether we like it or not. However, our future is not about how we avoid adversity but what we do when it comes. Pain and suffering, although significant obstacles, are not strong enough to stop us from our purpose. They can sometimes be the cause of such a discovery. It’s a lesson Jody Noland learned from her friend Larry that she almost forgot when her husband was on his deathbed.
Pleasure is overestimate